SPRING

Life in New Zealand with a Stroke

by David G. Ray

As I start this contribution it is sunny and very warm. My wife is mowing our lawn a job that was mine but now that I have had a stroke, she will not let me near the mower. This is just one of the many jobs around our property that I am no longer able to do because of my disability. Our wife/husband roles have been reversed in many instances. For example I have become a dab hand at filling and emptying the dishwasher, cleaning floors, etc. I guess this is a problem with many stroke survivors, but we must continue to carry out chores to the best of our ability. We must feel we are needed and making a contribution to our family life, however small that might be. A few of the stroke survivors I know seem to have given up. One gentleman in particular, who now lives in a retirement home and is still in his 50's, just sits in his wheel chair all day apparently awaiting his meals and bedtime. He does not seem to read, listen to the radio, watch TV or take part in any of the rest home activities. I have tried to encourage him to undertake some activities but he just makes negative comments. I will keep trying.

Last week the Stroke Club had a visit from a number of firemen. These were from a duty shift so we were lucky that there were no fire calls while they spoke to us. The fire officers gave us hints on how to avoid fires in our home especially those people who have movement difficulties. They particularly emphasized the installation of smoke alarms and the need to ensure they were in good working order. Smoke alarms should be tested monthly and the batteries replaced annually. It is amazing to find that people do not carry out these basic safety precautions or even don't have at least two smoke alarms installed in their homes. The firemen offered to come to their homes and install smoke alarms free of charge. The statistics they presented on how fast a fire can take over a house were frightening and demonstrated the need to take appropriate steps to install warning systems. The firemen also handed out pamphlets on how to fireproof homes specifically aimed at handicapped or senior citizens. The talk was followed by a lively question and answer session and I for one, can see that a repeat talk in 12 months time would be useful.

Next week our Stroke Club is to have our end of year Holiday lunch. We go to a smorgasbord restaurant, which allows our members to help themselves to whatever dishes they prefer. We have found that allowing members to choose from a menu takes time and it has been known for some to change their minds to some other dish when what they originally ordered is served. After the lunch we raffle off lots of goodies.

As this will be my last news before the holidays may I wish all readers a very happy and enjoyable time whether you are surrounded by snow or lying on a sunny beach. I am sure that whatever is the weather you will all be sunny inside.

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